HOW TO BLESS OTHERS
In the middle of your recovery, treatment or flare-up, the last thing you may be thinking is how to bless someone else?
Here are a few suggestions about how your situation can be your testimony, and a help to someone following the same path as you have been walking.
BLESS WITH YOUR ATTITUDE
It easy to slip into doubt, fear, worry, and even anger. Illness may cause you to stumble in your faith. You may not feel as tied to God as you were before this ordeal. Circumstances can make you feel angry with God. The Hows and Whys can haunt your nights and days.
- Your attitude can convey your trust in God’s wisdom and plan. Or, it can suggest that you do not really rely on God. Perhaps someone will see that you are not firmly gripping His hand. To someone who does not know Christ, your attitude can be a pivotal moment.
- During a cancer crisis, or any other illness that may be life-threatening, it may be difficult to keep a smile on your face. You may not always be able to speak with an upbeat manner. It may be tough to express hope in your own situation. You cannot project hope if you have little for yourself. Yet, your joy is in Christ. Your joy comes from thankfulness.
- How do you grab hold of the faith you once had, fill up with Hope for the future, and take charge of your emotions? The answer is you cannot. Only Jesus can.
- Remembering what God has done for you in the past is a foundation for trust in Him. He is faithful and will continue to be. God is unchanging. Our Lord can bring you in closer and whisper strength to your heart.
Philippians 2:14-15 – “Do all things without murmurings and disputes”
Proverbs 17:22 – “A merry heart doeth good [like] a medicine: but a broken spirit drys the bones.”
Proverbs 2:2-5 -“Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus.”
Your common experience gives encouragement, and builds hope. Your healing, whether partial or whole, is a way to encourage others! When sharing your experience with an individual, remember:
- Be careful of negativity. Try not to let it slip into your conversations.
- Don’t tell horror stories of how your Auntie Meg, Gramma, or cousin Betty endured an illness or surgery. Don’t tell about a death or a worsening condition.
- No matter how strongly you feel about a treatment- medical, life-style change, or re-aligning diet; try not to push the issue down the patient’s throat.
- Stay away from gossip about a physician or other health care provider or facility.
Romans 15:7 “Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.”
Proverbs 27:17 “As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.”
BLESS WITH YOUR STORY
Your experience may be a blessing to someone who reads your book, hears you speak at a women’s function, or through a blog. If you have a gift for either, or even if you do not, let God lead you through the process of presenting your story- a testimony to His faithfulness.
- Apply the same precautions as those above when writing words meant to bless someone’s heart or bring them to Jesus.
- Be careful to make God’s grace, mercy and healing your focus. It is not your own story- but His.
- Do not brag, embellish or exaggerate.
- Be aware the speaking, or promoting your book takes much energy and time. Get past the draining experience that chemo can cause before taking on such an endeavor. God will provide!
- Be willing to tell your story- your testimony in your own church. In a small setting, or a large one; your attitude about your experience can bless or influence someone in that audience.
- Do – use humor whenever possible.
“Your story is the Key that unlock someone’s prison” unkn.
Colossians 3:17 – “And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, [do] all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.”
Mark 5:19b “…tell them everything the Lord has done for you and how merciful he has been.”
BLESS OTHERS: VOLUNTEER
There are community associations that support and encourage victims of many diseases such as cancer. Sometimes they be found on the internet.
- Be available to pray, share the word with someone who is struggling
- Spend time at a support facility. They can use you, if only to mail reminders for meetings.
- Give medical equipment that you’ve finished with.
- Give bibles or other helpful reading materials.
- Mail encouraging cards to members known to be facing a medical hurdle, or to someone who struggles with depression.
- Consider mentoring. A member of my support group called me after every treatment. It made my day.
- If you are well and strong, and available- consider driving someone to treatment appointments
II Corinthians 9:8-9 “And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work. As it is written: “They have freely scattered their gifts to the poor; their righteousness endures forever.””
I Peter 4:10-11 “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms. If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides…”
ALLOW OTHERS TO BLESS YOU
One of the most difficult things you may face while ill or recovering is learning to be humble. Others may want to help in your home, getting groceries, making meals, or driving to appointments. I admit it was tough to allow someone else to do my laundry. It may not be the same for you. Perhaps the task you hate to share most is keeping your bathroom clean! “Let it go” are the much-repeated words known to many movie goers with children. They are wise words.
- If someone offers to assist you in Christian love, please allow them to do so. It may be God’s purpose for that person, that day, or in that personal exchange to that person to reach out in love.
- Accept the assistance with grace and thanksgiving.
- Be open to helping someone else along the way, or returning a kindness in some other way.
- Learn from the experience, and be aware of others who may need a blessing; big or small. Be willing to help.
- Thank the person who has helped you; but also thank God for His plan in blessing both of you.
Genesis 12:3a “I will bless those who bless you.”
The scripture has much to say about generosity. It is important to accept help and kindness from someone who gives it- so that they will be in obedience to God.
Deuteronomy 16:17 “Every man shall give as he is able, according to the blessing of the Lord your God that he has given you.”
I pray that through your health crisis experience, you are able to rise above and go forward with God’s compassion, so that you can be compassionate and bless others coming after you!
April Boyer(c) 2017
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